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DIVORCING SOMEONE YOU STILL CARE FOR BUT HATE RIGHT NOW

How to end a marriage when you know its over but you still care for your spouse or you may hate your spouse now but do not want harm to come to him or her. We can help in our Jersey City divorce law office today.

While we are Jersey City Divorce Lawyers, we are human and understand people as our practice is about people. You decided to file divorce papers in New Jersey, you are seeking New Jersey divorce lawyers and want to move on with your life. This is a big step. You may be thinking, “I can’t believe that son of a bitch cheated on me” or ” I cant believe he leaves the house for weeks and then just comes home” ” I can’t believe she spent my whole bonus on shoes!” or on and on. You may be very angry, you may be upset, you may want vengeance and you may also still care for this person that you have been married to for years, I would hope so. Marriage is a big deal to me, marriage and family is a big deal to me. I hope even if you are at the end of this journey, you can still reflect back to when you would do anything for this person or still care for this person because you have memories in common, children in common, etc. Maybe that is not the case for you but I hope it is because anger will only get you so far. To think clearly you want to be calm and work with a divorce attorney that can stay calm under pressure and guide you accordingly. These are the best divorce attorneys for you.

When you are seeking a divorce, you need to know if you are certain that you really want a divorce. Second, you need to know what you want. Some people just want a divorce or annulment, some people want money, some people want child support, alimony, etc. Every case is unique but either way, an experienced divorce lawyer can help you understand your rights and what you need to do to obtain them. We can help you navigate the divorce process to ease some of your tensions and concerns. We have been there before and we have ourselves fought in family court for our on cases, we know what it is like, trust us.

As one of the experienced divorce attorneys in Jersey City, New Jersey who practices statewide, I prefer to have cases where there is hope for civility. It is best to move on with your divorce in a positive manner if possible for your well being and your children as well if you have kids. There will be disagreements, without a doubt but an argument or arguments can flush the bad out and get us on the road to fruitful negotiations and reaching an agreement that neither party is thrilled with but both parties can live with, this is the surest sign of a good settlement.

If you are seeking a divorce and you want to have a divorce that will not totally destroy your post divorce life with your ex for various reasons, contact me and my team on 973-337-9643 today to discuss your family law situation. You will be glad you did.

WOW!! New Jersey Family Law Attorney: Did you Know? Divorce and Family Court Does Not Have to Be so Bad

You hear it all the time, divorce is so bad, going to family court is the worst, it is so painful, it is/was the worst experience of my life, the kids will be so upset, we will argue in front of strangers, the kids will have bad relationships in the future, the kids this or that, my parents will say this or that, i didn’t try hard enough, the list goes on and on. IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE. When I did the Buddha’s divorce, he was smiling the whole time and when we were done, he smiled even more while we ate a great meal together in downtown Jersey City, it was awesome! (Yes I am a dreamer)

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While we know divorce was not one of our lifetime goals, it does not mean you failed or that it is the end. It is the end of the marriage but could be a new beginning for you and your family. What is very important to remember if you have children together is that you both have one thing in common: your unconditional love for your children. The children should not be used in divorce litigation to hurt the other party because in the end, the kids will get hurt. Another important thing to keep in mind is: do not go too far in your divorce case or the pain cause by trying to hurt your spouse may never go away and that will forever damage the need to co-parent. Don’t do it. Think of the kids first.

No for those who think they should just stay in a marriage for the kids,  Do you honestly think the kids do not know how miserable you are? Does your family not notice this? And shame on them if they do and did nothing about it, did not speak to you about it. This is not the 1950s where people were essentially forced to stay married or were shunned. While I do not agree with just giving up on a marriage, there does come a point where there is no return and if you do not save yourself, the whole ship will go down in flames. If you go down too far and can’t work, or can’t handle taking care of the kids, everybody loses so you must know when it is time to call it quits and get yourself back on track for everybody’s future.

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Think about this too. Your whole life, you were told to do this or that, go to school, go to work, have a family, etc. During that time, you may have lost yourself in that there is no time for you and yes, many times you do need some time for yourself. Once you are divorced, you will have time for your interests and the other times when you do have the kids, you may be more energized than you ever were when you were married and under the “house rules.” The fact is you can have your cake and eat it too. You can be a provider/caretaker of the kids and still have a life and the kids will see you are happy! Our children can read us better than a scholar at Oxford reading a poem.

While some aspects of a divorce can be hard for sure, you can get through it. You can handle it. You can find a way to improve your life and with that, your children and your family’s life will improve too. Who wants to be around someone that is always upset? irritable? angry? Nobody. Divorce can be a door to your new life where you focus on the aspects of your life that you need to improve or just a new point in your life that will focus on you, not your family’s expectations or anyone else for that matter, finally you.

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As you may see, I am a divorce attorney in Jersey City and I also practice other key areas of law in Jersey City and the surrounding areas. When people come into my office, I am not selling them or trying to convince them to get a divorce, in fact, it is the opposite, I make sure they know this is what they want, I ask why they want it, what are the issues in the case that I can help them achieve and we go from there. As I said, if you can save your marriage you should try as hard as you can but if that levy has broken, it is time to start the cleanup and rebuild a stronger and happier you. Until next time, think positive and be safe. If you are interested in speaking with me about your case or a potential case in my Jersey City office, call 201-706-7910 today. If you would like to learn more about all of the legal services our Jersey City lawyers offer visit: Artusa Law Firm-Jersey City Lawyers.

5 WAYS TO ACHIEVE THE SEAMLESS DIVORCE IN NEW JERSEY NJ

From Jersey City Divorce and Family Law Attorney Santo Artusa——-Einstein taught me how to achieve the seamless/no fault/uncontested divorce in New Jersey Family-Divorce Courts. And as you would suspect, genius lives in simplicity. As a Hudson County divorce lawyer representing people from Jersey City, North Bergen, Bayonne, Union City, Hoboken, Newark, Kearny, North Arlington, Elizabeth, Union, New Brunswick, Somerset and beyond, I know which courts offer the easiest divorces and which courts are slower and have more archaic methods. For instance did you know that certain New Jersey Family Courts do not require an appearance in court if you know what you are doing? Hudson and Somerset are just two counties that permit divorce on the papers (aka a divorce without going to court). We handle hundreds of these divorce cases each year, especially in Hudson County, New Jersey. Our satisfied clients have sent us countless referrals because of our work and knowledge of the Hudson County divorce courts and judges.

The first step in a divorce is really telling your spouse that you are going to file (this is much easier in cases where both parties already want this, the parties no longer live together as husband and wife, spouse and spouse). By doing this, there is no surprise which could lead to a major civil paper-divorce assault for no reason, so it is best to deal with it with kid’s gloves if it is an amicable divorce and mutual decision.

The second step would be either getting the terms of the divorce agreement down in writing or filing for the divorce in the New Jersey Superior Court-Family Part (Each County has one). One you file for the divorce, you will get a docket or case number. Your spouse will then need to sign for that or sign that he or she agrees to the terms listed in the divorce complaint or you have a marital/property settlement agreement.

The third step would be to file that paper which must be signed and notarized (acknowledgment of service) with the court. After that is done, you can file for a default and submit the next series of documents and the actual proposed final divorce judgment. Again, if you do it right in certain counties, you will never have to go to court and appear in a family law courtroom. My team and I know how to obtain that divorce or annulment for you in a seamless and limited stress fashion (we cannot control everything but we strive to make this as easy as possible for you and your spouse).

If you face a family law issue, domestic abuse, restraining orders, child custody, divorce, annulments or any other family law issue in Hudson County, New Jersey or beyond, contact my team on 201-706-7910 to discuss your situation further. Until then, thank you and Have a safe 4th of July! God Bless America!

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