Settling a Family Law/Divorce Dispute vs. Going to Trial

During the divorce process or a different family law dispute, you have an opportunity to resolve your case through a settlement agreement or by having a judge decide. When you have a judge decide, what you get is a decision. With a decision, many people feel the judge does not know or missed certain points but the truth is, judges are busy and try to be fair to both parties but often, in family court, the outcome is worse than reaching an agreement. When making an agreement, both parties have input, in a trial, it is one person against another and many times what is said is lost somewhere in the middle. A sign of a reasonable deal is where both parties made concessions and can live with the deal. On the other hand, when the Judge renders a final order, your say is finished (except for an even more costly appeal). When you have a family law or divorce case, do your best to work with a lawyer who wants to help you settle, or a lawyer who will mediate between the two of you. Aside from that, have the mindset that you want to resolve the matter too. Making completely unreasonable demands will only make the other side walk away from the table.

In the end, the best way to settle your case is to be prepared. A lack of preparation is a sure way to fail. Prepare, Prepare and Prepare more. If the other side knows you are ready to litigate, they will be more inclined to settle.

Common Sense- Shared Parenting Does Not Work When Parents Live Far From Each Other

Some people will do anything to get back at their spouse, some people will do anything to pay little to no child support including an unrealistic shared parenting plan. Shared parenting is geared for people with young children and/or who live near each other. However, many people do not think how going from one house one day to another the house the next day and back and forth leads to further confusion and tension for the child. Children need stability and rules. When children are shuffled from one home to the next, who sets the rules? What is the homework or school project routine? How do they build friendships in their neighborhood if they are always running from one parent’s home to the next?

Recently we had a case where the mother lived in Jersey City and the father lived in Weehawken. The father refused to allow the kids who were getting older to live in one home consistently and even tried to register the children in his school district despite the mother being the primary custodial parent. When we argued in court, the Judge ruled in our favor that while the parents live in the same county, it can easily take one hour to get to and from Jersey City to Weehawken and that the distance was not conducive for the children’s well-bring for a shared parenting plan and that of course, the children should attend school close to the primary parent’s home.

Best Divorce Attorney in New Jersey, How to Determine?

Martindale Award for Client Distinction 2015
Martindale Award for Client Distinction 2015

People often ask or look for the “best divorce attorney in New Jersey, in Jersey City, in Morristown, etc”. Who is best depends more on you than on the attorney. Each case is different and the results will vary greatly depending on the facts, the judge, the timing, etc.

What maybe great about one lawyer (writing skills), maybe second to court presence for another lawyer. To me, you need a bit of both. You need to be a great writer, reader, analyzer, speaker, have a great presence in the courtroom, you need to be able to think quick, argue respectfully, treat the court respectfully and of course, show your client respect. There is no simple solution to who is the best lawyer anywhere, but researching or better yet, meeting with the prospective attorney to see if you have professional chemistry with that lawyer. There are many sites that rate attorneys, I am on several of these sites including avvo.com.

If you seek a professional consultation about your family law or divorce situation, contact my office today on 201-706-7910. We are located at 35 Journal Square, Jersey City, NJ 07306.

Jersey City Lawyer for Child Custody and Divorce Cases-What you need to know

Advocating for clients in Jersey City at the Hudson County Superior Court takes: patience, persistence, toughness, respect for others and a positive attitude. Being a Jersey City lawyer who also lives in Jersey City, I understand the people, I understand the Judges and regardless how good someone claims to be, sometimes the facts are strongly against you but you need to make the best of every case you work on and be persistent. Hudson County is home of many small firms and solo offices. Even the “bigger” firms are small and do not have any “wiz kids.” When the time comes that you need to hire an attorney for any reason, whether you have been arrested during a domestic violence dispute, are seeking to file for a divorce, have been served with child custody motion papers, it is critically important to meet with a lawyer as soon as you can. Motions and/or applications for specific relief require an answer within a certain amount of time and that time ticks away very fast. Divorce papers when served properly, require an answer within 35 days or you run the risk of default and a judgment being entered against you. One reason I say you need a positive attitude when in court is because if the matter involves something important, say child custody or parenting time for instance, it is important to come across as caring and at least willing to try and reach a resolution. A person that comes to court expecting everything and not willing to try to work matters out will lead to one certain loser, your child. Despite how much you may currently hate the opposing party or opposing parent, that parent, in most cases, loves your child too and that is the key element in any child custody or divorce case. As a father, I know the most precious time god gave us is the time we have with our children. Abusing that gift by not caring for your kids and or missing parenting time, not paying child support on purpose is terrible. On the other hand, trying to brainwash your children to hate the other parent is just as bad if not worse. My office is dedicated to finding solutions to people’s legal problems, whether its a family court issue, a car accident, a criminal matter and so on. If you or someone you know faces a legal situation, contact us today on 201-706-7910 for a confidential consultation at our Jersey City Office.

Child Custody, Child Support Family Law Attorney in Jersey City, Hudson County, New Jersey

New Jersey Child Custody Lawyers

New Jersey Child Custody Lawyer-Never Give Up!

Child Custody- the decision as to where a child should live and whether which legal custody (sole vs. joint custody) are very important cases and are heard almost daily throughout the family courts of New Jersey. The above picture of Sir Winston Churchill hangs on the wall of the Artusa Law Firm and is the principle of the firm, to never, never give up! Especially in family law when all seems lost and all seems to be going against you, attorneys that won’t give up is a critical aspect of your case. Child Custody and parenting time are arguably the most critical and important aspects of the law. While a $20 billion merger is critical in the business world, A billionaire without being able to see his son is a poor man. A woman who cannot see her child without supervision is a travesty. Jersey City Divorce Lawyer Santo Artusa knows this situations all to well.

The Artusa Law Firm team is skilled in the critical aspects of family law and how to represent their clients effectively before the Judges of Hudson County, Bergen County, Essex County and beyond. Today, another snow day in February 2014, a wicked winter in New Jersey, we dedicate this day to Sir Winston Churchill on his persistence and his guidance for all of our staff and attorneys at the Artusa Law Firm, the go to law firm for family law matters in Jersey City, Hoboken, Bayonne, Hudson County, New Jersey.

If you have a family law case and feel that your family issues are incredibly important, contact the attorneys who feel family law is the most important aspect of the courts today, contact the Artusa Law Firm on 201-706-7910.