-5 REASONS A DIVORCE WILL BE THE BEST THING YOU EVER DO FOR YOU!

Whether you are seeking a divorce lawyer, seeking to file for divorce, have been served divorce papers in Hudson County, please read below, it is important because if you are not happy the ones around you will not be happy.

@JERSEY CITY HUDSON COUNTY NEW JERSEY FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY SANTO ARTUSA OF JERSEY CITY……..Yep, Yes I said it. Divorce may be the best thing you ever do in your life for yourself. As a New Jersey Divorce Attorney, you can tell when the marriage is over just how the spouse speaks of his or her soon to be ex…. No for you, While you are thinking about it, have decided to do it, are stressed out, are unsure of many factors, there is a light at the end of the divorce tunnel. While I do not profess to be someone who believes the grass is greener I do believe that if you have some control and you are able to cut out toxic parts of your life, it may be the best decision you ever make. As a very busy divorce lawyer in Jersey City, New Jersey, I meet with young professionals daily who have just had enough. Whether it is because of an arranged marriage, whether it is the constant bickering, whether it is that you lost yourself because you have been trying to please someone that cannot be pleased, either way, you are done, finito! Trust me, I understand and I can explain reasons from a New Jersey divorce lawyer’s perspective to make it even clearer.

Benefits to obtaining a divorce sooner rather than later

  • If you divorce early on you may not have accumulated many assets to divide. As you get older, you will be able to accumulate assets that your former spouse will never be entitled to. For the new spouse- prenuptial agreement!
  • When there is less to divide, the divorce can be finalized much faster!
  • As you get older, you will earn more. When you earn more, you pay more in alimony. Everybody who pays alimony, hates alimony but again, they are free now so the monthly check may very well be worth it to them.
  • You are still young and can find the right person that respects you, cares for you, and you can actually enjoy your life. Who would have thought?
  • The level of animosity and stress is felt by the kids while you remain in a troubled relationship setting the stage that the children believe this is what a marriage is all about. Is that what marriage is about? I know it does not have to be, but it is up to you to admit it is not.
  • Regardless of money, you will rid yourself of a toxic relationship that affects every part of your life.
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My name is Santo Artusa, Jr., Esq. I am a divorce attorney in Jersey City, New Jersey focusing on divorce and family law issues throughout the Garden State, in every county in New Jersey whether it is an actual divorce, annulment, child custody case, parenting time, alimony, child support, domestic abuse, equitable distribution/assets division, divorcing someone outside of the United States, my team and I are skilled in matrimonial litigation in New Jersey. If you have a case and seek a consultation, call my team on 973-337-9643 today for an in person or phone consultation to determine if we should work together. Or if you prefer, we can contact you after you fill out our contact form below:

NEW JERSEY DIVORCE LAWYER: THE 7 REASONS WHY FILING FOR DIVORCE IS BETTER THAN WINNING THE LOTTERY

Hudson County New Jersey Divorce Lawyer and lottery winner Santo Artusa, Esq….Winning the lottery or dreaming about winning the lottery is very similar to obtaining a divorce especially in a bad marriage. You think: What will I do that first day? Where will I live? How will I feel differently? Yes, dreaming of winning the lottery is similar and in my opinion, better than filing for divorce and eventually obtaining a divorce! How so? Well, if your marriage is essentially over whether it is because of a lack of any emotional connection, lack of attraction, disrespect, abuse, or for any other reason, you may be envisioning what your new life will be like without having to wake up next to your spouse daily, without fighting with your spouse daily. The list goes on and on. We are living longer today so why waste so much time with someone you do not want to be with anymore?

Some Reasons Why Obtaining a Divorce is better Than Winning the Lottery:

  1. Whether you have kids or not, you will have time for YOURSELF! Remember that! Time is more valuable than money and obtaining a divorce allows you to actually schedule key personal/key recharge time to yourself!
  2. As you get older, you will earn more money and that money will be all yours!
  3. If you were the dependent spouse, you may get considerable alimony which you can buy anything you want with! You can go on dates, you can buy a car, you can vacation, there is no limit to what you can do with the money!
  4. If you are the dependent spouse, you can get a sizable check to your share of the assets earned in the marriage! Lotto! Lotto! Most of which may be tax free! (Better than lotto)
  5. If you are the earner, the sooner you file, the shorter the alimony period will be!
  6. You will never have to explain yourself to your spouse ever! Priceless.
  7. Your annoying in-laws will no longer be your in-laws and will be OUT!
  8. You are smarter/wiser now, your new spouse will be chosen more carefully for a better future!

There is no question that going through a divorce can be difficult but if you are obtaining or seeking to divorce for the right reasons, there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel that will shine upon your life if you make the right decisions and begin to distance yourself from toxic people. This light can in fact be better than winning the lottery. Money comes and goes, after a while, you will buy everything you ever want and realize that money is not the most important thing in life but self respect and happiness are. Being in a marriage that drags you down, zaps your energy ruins many other aspects of your life. If you were told you had terminal cancer, would you stay with your spouse that shows no love for you? that disrespects you? that could care less if you were home or not? I wouldn’t, why would you? If you think your children do not know what is going on or your family and you want to save the marriage for them, you are ignoring reality and hurting yourself each day. We all deserve to get up and feel happy about our lives, our marriages, our families. If you do not and realize the marriage is over, you should contact my team of divorce lawyers in Jersey City to discuss your options and how to move forward with your life.

We can be reached on 973-337-9643 for a phone consult or in person meeting in our Jersey City office. We represent clients in every county in New Jersey. To read more about me, visit: Jersey City Divorce Lawyer Santo Artusa. Alternatively, you can fill out our form below and we will contact you at a time that works for you.

4 NJ DIVORCE MYTHS DESTROYED BY NEW JERSEY DIVORCE ATTORNEY SANTO ARTUSA JR

Jersey City divorce attorney and New Jersey Family Law Attorney Santo Artusa……This article is about common divorce misconceptions in New Jersey and how I will “destroy” them one by one with the help of Spock. Ok, first myth that we will destroy today: “My spouse will get half of everything I have” This is false. First, New Jersey divorce laws are based on equitable distribution not community property meaning that it is based on various equitable factors. Even if the court divided half of property you have, it is only the property/assets acquired during the marriage. So if you think your spouse will take money you had before the marriage too, no he or she will not. There are circumstances where money is commingled but that if for another time and another article.

#2 – The family courts favor women. Untrue. More and more women are lawyers and in turn Judges and believe it or not, many of these judges in family court are tougher on women then they are on men. I have seen it with my own eyes time and time again.

#3 Men can never have custody of their kids. Untrue. The tender years doctrine is no longer the law or the way courts consider custody. The age of children is part of the factors in custody determinations but mothers and fathers are equal in the State of New Jersey. Obviously if one parent has had the children for a long period of time, the other parent cannot simply expect to fly into their lives and just obtain custody and if they do not, they cannot blame it on whether they are male or female, mother or father.

#4 Men Cannot Receive Alimony-Untrue. Women, you have what you want! You have jobs and salaries just like men and guess what? If you earn more, you will have to pay alimony! Whether you are a man or woman, the breadwinner will pay alimony. If the parties agree to waive alimony then of course it does not have to be paid but alimony can and is paid to men everyday. New world!

Anyway friends, until next time, thank you for reading and contact me if you seek a divorce attorney in New Jersey. We can be reached on 973-337-9643.

NEW JERSEY DIVORCE ATTORNEYS-HOW FAST CAN I REALLY GET DIVORCED AND WHAT WILL HAPPEN?

How fast can I get divorced? I am engaged to someone else as my spouse on paper and I have been apart for more than 7 years, how fast can I be divorced?

If your spouse agrees and signs all paperwork, we can get you divorced in:

60  DAYS!!!!!60 DAYS!!!!!

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THE BEST WAY TO DIVORCE SOMEONE YOU STILL CARE FOR BUT HATE RIGHT NOW

From JERSEY CITY LAWYER: SANTO ARTUSA——–How to end a marriage when you know its over but you still care for your spouse or you may hate your spouse now but do not want harm to come to him or her. What is the best way to handle the situation? We can help in our Jersey City divorce law office today.

While we are Jersey City Divorce Lawyers, we are human and understand people as our practice is about people. You decided to file divorce papers in New Jersey, you are seeking New Jersey divorce lawyers and want to move on with your life. This is a big step. You may be thinking, “I can’t believe that son of a bitch cheated on me” or ” I cant believe he leaves the house for weeks and then just comes home” ” I can’t believe she spent my whole bonus on shoes!” or on and on. You may be very angry, you may be upset, you may want vengeance and you may also still care for this person that you have been married to for years, I would hope so. Marriage is a big deal to me, marriage and family is a big deal to me. I hope even if you are at the end of this journey, you can still reflect back to when you would do anything for this person or still care for this person because you have memories in common, children in common, etc. Maybe that is not the case for you but I hope it is because anger will only get you so far. To think clearly you want to be calm and work with a divorce attorney that can stay calm under pressure and guide you accordingly. These are the best divorce attorneys for you.

When you are seeking a divorce, you need to know if you are certain that you really want a divorce. Second, you need to know what you want. Some people just want a divorce or annulment, some people want money, some people want child support, alimony, etc. Every case is unique but either way, an experienced divorce lawyer can help you understand your rights and what you need to do to obtain them. We can help you navigate the divorce process to ease some of your tensions and concerns. We have been there before and we have ourselves fought in family court for our on cases, we know what it is like, trust us.

As one of the experienced divorce attorneys in Jersey City, New Jersey who practices statewide, I prefer to have cases where there is hope for civility. It is best to move on with your divorce in a positive manner if possible for your well being and your children as well if you have kids. There will be disagreements, without a doubt but an argument or arguments can flush the bad out and get us on the road to fruitful negotiations and reaching an agreement that neither party is thrilled with but both parties can live with, this is the surest sign of a good settlement.

If you are seeking a divorce and you want to have a divorce that will not totally destroy your post divorce life with your ex for various reasons, contact me and my team on 973-337-9643 today to discuss your family law situation. You will be glad you did.

5 WAYS TO MAKE SHARED RESIDENTIAL CUSTODY WORK IN NEW JERSEY

As time goes on, the laws change, trends change and the shared custody movement is no different. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not so much. Shared residential custody has come along way with the New Jersey Family Courts. Some people agree with the approach, others do not. Some therapists agree with it, some do not but either way here are my tips as to how to make shared parenting a reality with your ex. As a family law attorney in a high density area, I have mixed feelings on it. Feelings aside, here are my tips:

  1. Live in close proximity to each other. No, you do not need to live next door but you should try to live within the same school district. This will make it easy for attending school events, picking up the kids, being there for emergencies if one parent cannot, being close to the child’s doctor, etc. Living close to each other makes it easier to work together.
  2. Make a parenting schedule or go to court to work out as many details as possible. The more detailed the plan is the lesser the chance that confusion can be used as an excuse not to comply and or less of a reason to make a mistake with the scheduling. Plan the holidays, the long weekends, vacations, who will do the pick ups, where will the pick ups be, etc.
  3. Family Wizard. For now, the app Family Wizard is a great way to schedule and communicate with the other parent without getting into nasty disputes or even simple disagreements about time/pickups/holiday schedules, etc. The yearly parenting time calendar goes into the wizard and you will be amazed how much easier it is then contact your ex all the time.
  4. Have a place in the home/apartment that makes your child feel that each home is his or her home and that the child is not just visiting. Go that extra mile for the child and the child will be excited at both homes.
  5. Take the child to his or her activities. Consistency is the key. Your child should not miss baseball games, football, etc because you want to do something else. If your child commits to a sport/activity, have your child there every time. The consistency of being there and/or being part of a team is in the best interests of a child. When he or she begins to miss, the coach or leader will not give your child the same chance and why would he or she if the other kids are fully committed?

I am a family law attorney and I have children. I realize every case is different but in the end it is up to you as to how much you are willing to be civil, agree, work things out for the kids. I am here to help you achieve your goals in court that affect your everyday life. If you have a family law case in New Jersey, call my Jersey City office on 973-337-9643.

RESOLVING FAMILY LAW AND DIVORCE DISPUTES IN NEW JERSEY

Setting a Goal for A Civil/Amicable Divorce or Family Court Case in New Jersey

Family law in New Jersey encompasses many different subcategories including but not limited to: divorce, child custody, child support, parenting time and many other issues.  While you may think you have the strongest case in the world, and you may, or you don’t have the strongest case based on the facts of your life and the law, it is important to consider trying to resolve these issues outside of court with a the help of a lawyer and/or a mediator-arbitrator. By doing so, you have more control than if you present your case before a Judge who may have 50 other cases that same day, literally. In Jersey City-Hudson County for example, the family court is so busy that when trials or hearings are set, the days you are given can be spread over months, making it hard for the Judge to remember all the facts and other issues. By working with experienced family law and divorce attorneys, you can resolve your family law issues in private and efficiently. If you do not want to mediate because the other side refuses to listen or just does not want to participate, the courts are always open and working with an experienced divorce and family law attorney can help you argue your case to achieve what you are seeking.

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How do I choose the best divorce or family law attorney for me? 

I like food so I will reference food for example. There is no such thing as the best meal for everyone and there is no such thing as the best divorce lawyer for everyone. Everyone has a different style, a different taste, different objectives than another great lawyer or great dish. If you want someone very aggressive because you believe that being aggressive will get you what you want, then search for someone like that. If you believe someone who is seeking to find solutions without making matters worse is the best, then seek someone like that. Again, each person has different goals and how to achieve them. I have seen cases where the other side was so aggressive that the non-custodial parent, in this a case a dad after his tenth court appearance to just see his kids, gave up and left the state, just sending in his weekly support obligation. Sad for sure, you can call that person names, you can judge that person but unless you are in his or her shoes you do not know. The reason I say this is if you have children, you should try to divorce or have a family case in a civil fashion as best you can or what I like to call ” a civil divorce.” Always remember, parents, despite their differences have critical things to work on in their lives, their children. Do not try to bury the other parent because that parent needs to there for your kids too, money isn’t everything.

About me and my divorce and family law team

As you may see, my name is Santo V. Artusa, Jr., I am an attorney that practices in Jersey City, New Jersey. I practice various areas of law but mainly family law and divorce in Hudson, Essex, Bergen, Union, Middlesex, Somerset and Passaic Counties in New Jersey. I am a resident of Jersey City, I serve the people I see on a daily basis whether in my neighborhood or near my office location. We try to approach a case with the goal of fighting hard enough in a civilized way so that we can reach an agreement both parties can live with. I am proud of the work we do in my office and the care my staff and I have for people who need legal help. If you have a legal issue in New Jersey, contact me or my staff on 201-706-7910 for a confidential meeting where we can discuss what is going on in your life and how we can help you fix it.

WOW!! New Jersey Family Law Attorney: Did you Know? Divorce and Family Court Does Not Have to Be so Bad

Jersey City Lawyer Santo Artusa: You hear it all the time, divorce is so bad, going to family court is the worst, it is so painful, it is/was the worst experience of my life, the kids will be so upset, we will argue in front of strangers, the kids will have bad relationships in the future, the kids this or that, my parents will say this or that, i didn’t try hard enough, the list goes on and on. IT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE. When I did the Buddha’s divorce, he was smiling the whole time and when we were done, he smiled even more while we ate a great meal together in downtown Jersey City, it was awesome! (Yes I am a dreamer). As a lawyer in Jersey City that handles a variety of legal work, youi have to stay positive and remain focused on your client’s goals.

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While we know divorce was not one of our lifetime goals, it does not mean you failed or that it is the end. It is the end of the marriage but could be a new beginning for you and your family. What is very important to remember if you have children together is that you both have one thing in common: your unconditional love for your children. The children should not be used in divorce litigation to hurt the other party because in the end, the kids will get hurt. Another important thing to keep in mind is: do not go too far in your divorce case or the pain cause by trying to hurt your spouse may never go away and that will forever damage the need to co-parent. Don’t do it. Think of the kids first. As a lawyer I have found that it is never too late to change or fix a situation before it gets worse.

No for those who think they should just stay in a marriage for the kids,  Do you honestly think the kids do not know how miserable you are? Does your family not notice this? And shame on them if they do and did nothing about it, did not speak to you about it. This is not the 1950s where people were essentially forced to stay married or were shunned. While I do not agree with just giving up on a marriage, there does come a point where there is no return and if you do not save yourself, the whole ship will go down in flames. If you go down too far and can’t work, or can’t handle taking care of the kids, everybody loses so you must know when it is time to call it quits and get yourself back on track for everybody’s future.

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Think about this too. Your whole life, you were told to do this or that, go to school, go to work, have a family, etc. During that time, you may have lost yourself in that there is no time for you and yes, many times you do need some time for yourself. Once you are divorced, you will have time for your interests and the other times when you do have the kids, you may be more energized than you ever were when you were married and under the “house rules.” The fact is you can have your cake and eat it too. You can be a provider/caretaker of the kids and still have a life and the kids will see you are happy! Our children can read us better than a scholar at Oxford reading a poem. Kids know what is going on ask a divorce Judge, lawyer, therapist, friend, etc.

While some aspects of a divorce can be hard for sure, you can get through it. You can handle it. You can find a way to improve your life and with that, your children and your family’s life will improve too. Who wants to be around someone that is always upset? irritable? angry? Nobody. Divorce can be a door to your new life where you focus on the aspects of your life that you need to improve or just a new point in your life that will focus on you, not your family’s expectations or anyone else for that matter, finally you.

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As you may see, I am an attorney in Jersey City and I also practice other key areas of law in Jersey City and the surrounding areas. When people come into my office, I am not selling them or trying to convince them to get a divorce, in fact, it is the opposite, I make sure they know this is what they want, I ask why they want it, what are the issues in the case that I can help them achieve and we go from there. As I said, if you can save your marriage you should try as hard as you can but if that levy has broken, it is time to start the cleanup and rebuild a stronger and happier you. Until next time, think positive and be safe. If you are interested in speaking with me about your case or a potential case in my Jersey City office, call 973-337-9643 today. If you would like to learn more about all of the legal services our Jersey City lawyers’ offer visit: Artusa Law Firm-Jersey City Lawyers.

7 Critical Tips To Avoid a Messy Divorce in New Jersey

Article about trying to have an amicable divorce in New Jersey or civilized divorce in New Jersey from New Jersey Family Law and Divorce Attorney Santo Artusa of Jersey City. The ball is in your court as to how a case starts or even how you react to overstated or made up allegations against you. Think before you act.
Divorce can be very painful but it does not have to be messy, it does not have to force the parties relive bad times, to rehash feelings from years ago. Working with experienced divorce attorneys can help you keep the divorce as civil as possible. Whether the issue is money, children, real property, retirement assets, alimony, etc., there is still hope to reach a fair and reasonable resolution without resorting to name calling, false allegations, using the children as pawns and other disturbing behavior. However, you need to Be VERY careful who you decide to work with because if you find yourself with the wrong divorce or family law attorney, you will find yourself fighting issues that were long resolved and that are making your attorney fees increasingly high every month, be very careful. How your life will be after your divorce is very important for you so how you behave in the divorce should be thought out and not built on rage and temporary inflamed emotions of family members egging you on. Stay focused, know your case goals and stay positive.

As an experienced divorce lawyer and divorce mediator in Jersey City New Jersey, I have seen cases that can be resolved in a friendly fashion turn nasty and other cases that start nasty end civil. Anything can happen with the right attitude and the right plan, just as it can with the wrong plan and wrong attitude. A lot of how your divorce or family law case goes really depends on your attitude and your expectations. Below I offer some tips to avoid a messy divorce case in New Jersey. Other tips I offer are just life tips in general when dealing with difficult situations, albeit, many are easier said than done.

  1. Try your best to be respectful to your spouse and his or her attorney. “You get more with honey than vinegar.”
  2. Write down what you are flexible on and what you are not and why.
  3. Refrain from engaging with your spouse’s family and friends if they are part of he problem.
  4. Do not flaunt your new girlfriend/boyfriend, expensive car, etc.  Limit social media.
  5. Never use the children as pawns in your plan.
  6. Set time aside for yourself during a divorce to de-stress, regain energy and focus.
  7. If you have children, adore them and give them your full attention.

While this is only a short list, I think you get the point. Stay positive, keep trying your best to think of the big picture as there will be hurdles along the way but no hurdle is high or tough enough to beat patience and proper planning.