5 WAYS TO ACHIEVE THE SEAMLESS DIVORCE IN NEW JERSEY NJ

Einstein taught me how to achieve the seamless/no fault/uncontested divorce in New Jersey Family-Divorce Courts. And as you would suspect, genius lives in simplicity. As a Hudson County divorce lawyer representing people from Jersey City, North Bergen, Bayonne, Union City, Hoboken, Newark, Kearny, North Arlington, Elizabeth, Union, New Brunswick, Somerset and beyond, I know which courts offer the easiest divorces and which courts are slower and have more archaic methods. For instance did you know that certain New Jersey Family Courts do not require an appearance in court if you know what you are doing? Hudson and Somerset are just two counties that permit divorce on the papers (aka a divorce without going to court). We handle hundreds of these divorce cases each year, especially in Hudson County, New Jersey. Our satisfied clients have sent us countless referrals because of our work and knowledge of the Hudson County divorce courts and judges.

The first step in a divorce is really telling your spouse that you are going to file (this is much easier in cases where both parties already want this, the parties no longer live together as husband and wife, spouse and spouse). By doing this, there is no surprise which could lead to a major civil paper-divorce assault for no reason, so it is best to deal with it with kid’s gloves if it is an amicable divorce and mutual decision.

The second step would be either getting the terms of the divorce agreement down in writing or filing for the divorce in the New Jersey Superior Court-Family Part (Each County has one). One you file for the divorce, you will get a docket or case number. Your spouse will then need to sign for that or sign that he or she agrees to the terms listed in the divorce complaint or you have a marital/property settlement agreement.

The third step would be to file that paper which must be signed and notarized (acknowledgment of service) with the court. After that is done, you can file for a default and submit the next series of documents and the actual proposed final divorce judgment. Again, if you do it right in certain counties, you will never have to go to court and appear in a family law courtroom. My team and I know how to obtain that divorce or annulment for you in a seamless and limited stress fashion (we cannot control everything but we strive to make this as easy as possible for you and your spouse).

If you face a family law issue, domestic abuse, restraining orders, child custody, divorce, annulments or any other family law issue in Hudson County, New Jersey or beyond, contact my team on 201-706-7910 to discuss your situation further. Until then, thank you and Have a safe 4th of July! God Bless America!

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7 Critical Tips To Avoid a Messy Divorce in New Jersey

Article about trying to have an amicable divorce in New Jersey or civilized divorce in New Jersey from New Jersey Family Law and Divorce Attorney Santo Artusa of Jersey City. The ball is in your court as to how a case starts or even how you react to overstated or made up allegations against you. Think before you act.
Divorce can be very painful but it does not have to be messy, it does not have to force the parties relive bad times, to rehash feelings from years ago. Working with experienced divorce attorneys can help you keep the divorce as civil as possible. Whether the issue is money, children, real property, retirement assets, alimony, etc., there is still hope to reach a fair and reasonable resolution without resorting to name calling, false allegations, using the children as pawns and other disturbing behavior. However, you need to Be VERY careful who you decide to work with because if you find yourself with the wrong divorce or family law attorney, you will find yourself fighting issues that were long resolved and that are making your attorney fees increasingly high every month, be very careful. How your life will be after your divorce is very important for you so how you behave in the divorce should be thought out and not built on rage and temporary inflamed emotions of family members egging you on. Stay focused, know your case goals and stay positive.

As an experienced divorce lawyer and divorce mediator in Jersey City New Jersey, I have seen cases that can be resolved in a friendly fashion turn nasty and other cases that start nasty end civil. Anything can happen with the right attitude and the right plan, just as it can with the wrong plan and wrong attitude. A lot of how your divorce or family law case goes really depends on your attitude and your expectations. Below I offer some tips to avoid a messy divorce case in New Jersey. Other tips I offer are just life tips in general when dealing with difficult situations, albeit, many are easier said than done.

  1. Try your best to be respectful to your spouse and his or her attorney. “You get more with honey than vinegar.”
  2. Write down what you are flexible on and what you are not and why.
  3. Refrain from engaging with your spouse’s family and friends if they are part of he problem.
  4. Do not flaunt your new girlfriend/boyfriend, expensive car, etc.  Limit social media.
  5. Never use the children as pawns in your plan.
  6. Set time aside for yourself during a divorce to de-stress, regain energy and focus.
  7. If you have children, adore them and give them your full attention.

While this is only a short list, I think you get the point. Stay positive, keep trying your best to think of the big picture as there will be hurdles along the way but no hurdle is high or tough enough to beat patience and proper planning.

3 BIG TIPS IF YOU HAVE A NEW JERSEY FAMILY COURT DATE COMING UP

Do you have a court date in Jersey City, Hudson County Family Court? For a restraining order? For a family court case? We can help you NOW!Jersey City Family Law Attorney Santo Artusa and his team are skilled in family and criminal law cases in Jersey City, NJ.

You may have a court date in family court in Hudson County, Essex County, Union County or beyond in New Jersey because you filed an application or the other party filed something and you must attend court in Jersey City, Newark, Hackensack, etc. Either way, the day is approaching and you are going over what your goal is or not sure what your goal really is, either way, you want the court date to go well. You want the best results possible. While nobody can guarantee what a family court Judge will do, working with an experienced New Jersey family court attorney will help you seek the right relief and defend you when you need to be defended.

I will offer three tips to you aside from the fact that you should have a family law attorney with you to handle your case.

  1. Have your proof with you and be organized. You cannot hand a Judge 100 papers and expect the Judge to comb through them all. The Judge will be upset and thats not good. I just had a court case this week were the other attorney came to court will a folder of papers and audio CDs. I asked where the proof was, the Judge asked where the proof was and the other attorney said, its on the CDs, you can listen to them! The Judge looked at the attorney as if she was crazy and said it is your job to have the transcript and so forth. So have your proof but be organized.
  2. Be respectful to the court and court staff. The Judge and the Judge’s staff is like their own little army, their own little team. Attack or disrespect one, you disrespect all, never do it, don’t do it. Even if you get an attitude for no reason, do not respond in a bad way, EVER.
  3. Dress Appropriately– I cannot tell you how often I am in disbelief over what people who have court wear to court, whether it is a woman with a skirt so high or a man with his pants to the floor, dress as if you are going to church. No you do not have to wear a suit to church or to court but dress neat, dress conservatively.

While this are only basic tips, sometime you need to have basic common sense when going to court and when dealing with important family law situations. My team and I are trained family law attorneys in New Jersey with our main office in Jersey City. If you have a family law case coming up and seek a lawyer, contact us sooner rather than later as we can only accept a certain amount of cases per day. Contact us on 201-706-7910 today.

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FATHER’S RIGHTS LAWYER HUDSON COUNTY

SEEKING A DIVORCE OR FAMILY COURT ATTORNEY FOR MEN IN HUDSON COUNTY, NEW JERSEY? THE ARTUSA LAW FIRM CAN HELP YOU TODAY.

 



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Hudson County Child Custody Lawyer Santo Artusa

For years, fathers were beaten up in family court when they went for child custody, parenting time, child support, divorce and so forth, with the right lawyer, that day has ended. Jersey City Father’s Rights Attorney Santo Artusa has represented hundreds of fathers successfully in obtaining custody, child support and other related family law matters in Hudson, Essex, Union and Bergen Counties in New Jersey. Fathers are equal to mothers and the Artusa Law Firm is skilled in representing fathers who seek custody or simply, equal rights with their children.  Lead family law and divorce attorney was once a litigant in family court trying to find his way to see his child, he knows the pain and what is needed to prevail. Nothing is more precious than the time you have with your children and the wisdom you can give them. That is equal for both men and women.

“Before I was a family law attorney in New Jersey, I was a single father living in New York fighting to see my daughter. I learned about family court quickly because I could not see my daughter without a court order. You name the obstacle, I had to overcome it. Supervised visits check, false claims check, police involvement, check.  I hired a lawyer in Manhattan who knew very little about family law and he was my guide getting me more lost than I was before, stumbling through oral arguments and the facts of my case. Family law is not for the faint of heart and not for those who cannot argue effectively in court, family lawyers must possess that skill, I do, as do all the attorneys that work with me, it is not optional, it is mandatory.”  Santo V. Artusa, Jr., Esq.  To read about some of our recent cases, visit: News From The Courthouse

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It is so important to communicate to the Judge in your case right away, that the father in the case is equal to the mother even if the father cannot have custody (residential) and can only see the child on weekends because of work or other familial relationships. One should not be judged for have a child out of wedlock, while married or after leaving the mother, that has no bearing on the quality of a father the person is. While I believe we should all try to raise our children in one home, mother and father with the kids, but many times it is just not going to happen. The main focus should be the father that wants to be with his kids whenever he can and he is consistent. Those are the fathers we choose to represent in New Jersey Family Court. To read about our recent victories, read our New Jersey Family Court Lawyer press release.

 

We handle the following father’s rights cases in Hudson County, New Jersey and beyond:

If you are a father and seek representation from someone that knows what it is like to fight to see your child, to fight to be equal, contact the Hudson County New Jersey Family Law Team at the Artusa Law Firm today on 201-706-7910 where we believe in father’s rights and equality. You can also contact us via email here:

NEW JERSEY DIVORCE-5 REASONS IT WILL BE THE BEST THING YOU EVER DO

@HUDSON COUNTY FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY SANTO ARTUSA OF JERSEY CITY……..Yep, Yes I said it. Divorce may be the best thing you ever do in your life for yourself. While you are thinking about it, have decided to do it, are stressed out, are unsure of many factors, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. While I do not profess to be someone who believes the grass is greener I do believe that if you have some control and you are able to cut out toxic parts of your life, it may be the best decision you ever make. As a very busy divorce lawyer in Jersey City, New Jersey, I meet with young professionals daily who have just had enough. Whether it is because of an arranged marriage, whether it is the constant bickering, whether it is that you lost yourself because you have been trying to please someone that cannot be pleased, either way, you are done, finito! Trust me, I understand and I can explain reasons from a New Jersey divorce lawyer’s perspective to make it even clearer.

Benefits to obtaining a divorce sooner rather than later

  • If you divorce early on you may not have accumulated many assets to divide. As you get older, you will be able to accumulate assets that your former spouse will never be entitled to. For the new spouse- prenuptial agreement!
  • When there is less to divide, the divorce can be finalized much faster!
  • As you get older, you will earn more. When you earn more, you pay more in alimony. Everybody who pays alimony, hates alimony but again, they are free now so the monthly check may very well be worth it to them.
  • You are still young and can find the right person that respects you, cares for you, and you can actually enjoy your life. Who would have thought?
  • The level of animosity and stress is felt by the kids while you remain in a troubled relationship setting the stage that the children believe this is what a marriage is all about. Is that what marriage is about? I know it does not have to be, but it is up to you to admit it is not.
  • Regardless of money, you will rid yourself of a toxic relationship that affects every part of your life.
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Jersey City Divorce Attorney Santo Artusa

My name is Santo Artusa, Jr., Esq. I am a divorce attorney in Jersey City, New Jersey focusing on divorce and family law issues throughout the Garden State, in every county in New Jersey whether it is an actual divorce, annulment, child custody case, parenting time, alimony, child support, domestic abuse, equitable distribution/assets division, divorcing someone outside of the United States, my team and I are skilled in matrimonial litigation in New Jersey. If you have a case and seek a consultation, call my team on 201-706-7910 today for an in person or phone consultation to determine if we should work together. Or if you prefer, we can contact you after you fill out our contact form below:

DIVORCE IN NEW JERSEY DUE TO DOMESTIC ABUSE-7 REASONS TO GET OUT NOW

Domestic Abuse/Violence in New Jersey and leaving your partner/spouse. Views from the inside. Views from the inside is a blog by Hudson County New Jersey Family Law and New Jersey Divorce Lawyer Santo Artusa and what he sees as a divorce/family lawyer, father, husband, family man, businessman in Jersey City, New Jersey.

Sadly, New Jersey is a no fault state in terms of divorce. However, that does not mean you cannot file for divorce in Hudson County New Jersey Family Court based on extreme cruelty and for other reasons that include domestic abuse/domestic violence, a sad reality that remains in our country and is culturally accepted in some cultures but not in this office and not in the courts. If you hit my daughter, you are dead. As a Jersey City-Hudson County divorce attorney, I have seen and handled many difficult situations and I know I can help you if you are ready to.  Domestic abuse is not just about women its also about men being mentally and physically abused. It is not a weakness to be hit and not fight back, it is not a weakness to admit someone abuses you in one way or the other. It happens everyday to both genders and it must be stopped and you must get our before the worse two things happen: 1. Your kids see this behavior and 2. You get killed or you kill your spouse defending yourself.

Below are 7 reasons to file for divorce or consider when you seek a divorce in New Jersey and domestic violence/abuse is involved.

  1. First, if you are in the early stages of your marriage and there is domestic abuse already and you do not have children, why stay in the marriage? Get out while you are young and while you have need been harmed for that long.
  2. The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave.
  3. If your spouse abuses you, and you have children and they witness this, they are more prone to be abusive or be in an abusive relationship, is that fair? No its not.
  4. You may believe you can shield your kids or family from the abuse you feel inside but your family will know you are suffering because of the intensity of it. This will hurt you and your health.
  5. Be fair to yourself. Respect yourself. Do not let anyone hit you, mentally abuse you. Life is too short to live that way. Begin to take positive steps.
  6. You can always file for a restraining order to get your spouse out of the home to protect yourself. If the abuse is more verbal, you can still do that but if you feel physically safe it may be best to just file the divorce and handle the next steps that way.
  7. You can still obtain a divorce based on abuse/extreme cruelty even if you never called the police. The fact is many people never call the police in a domestic abuse/violence situation. Many people are scared and or ashamed. We can help you and advise you.
  8. Does your spouse take advantage that your family lives in another country or far from the marital home/apartment? I see this a lot where a spouse takes advantage of the fact that the wife/husband’s family, close friends live in India, Pakistan, China, France, Italy, parts of Africa.

Divorce is rarely a pleasant experience but nor is surgery but when you have to get rid of the cancer in your body, you must do what you have to do to save yourself. As the tension rises between you and your spouse, only bad things can happen from there if you do not begin taking steps to get out of the marriage. If you are ready to file for divorce and/or can no longer take the abuse or fake accusations of abuse, contact my Jersey City family law team on 201-706-7910 today for a confidential appointment.

ACCIDENT IN AN UBER-WHAT TO DO?

FROM JERSEY CITY injury and personal injury lawyer Santo Artusa What should I do if I am in an accident while in an UBER? LYFT? in Jersey City, Newark or Beyond? We can help you, read below!

Despite Uber’s Public Relation issues, LYFT, UBER and other car sharing/riding services will continue to thrive in the United States especially in in New Jersey where the cost of living is so absurd that is should be illegal to tax us anymore. Uber and these services are of major help to people throughout Jersey City, Bayonne, Union City, Weehawken, Hoboken, North Bergen, etc. While UBER and the like are a major help and brilliant service, accidents to happen when in these cars and it is important to know that you are covered until commercial insurance if you were a passenger in an UBER and were involved in a car accident, whether it was your UBER driver’s fault or the other driver, it does not matter.

The Jersey City injury attorneys at the Artusa Law Firm can help you if you have been in an accident in New Jersey whether you were a passenger, driver, pedestrian, etc and have been injured. If you have been in an accident, contact us today on 201-706-7910 and we will help you get the care you need and represent you for possible money damages. We are located in Jersey City, New Jersey.

4 NJ DIVORCE MYTHS DESTROYED

From Jersey City divorce lawyer Santo Artusa……This article is about common divorce misconceptions in New Jersey and how I will “destroy” them one by one with the help of Spock. Ok, first myth that we will destroy today: “My spouse will get half of everything I have” This is false. First, New Jersey divorce laws are based on equitable distribution not community property meaning that it is based on various equitable factors. Even if the court divided half of property you have, it is only the property/assets acquired during the marriage. So if you think your spouse will take money you had before the marriage too, no he or she will not. There are circumstances where money is commingled but that if for another time and another article.

#2 – The family courts favor women. Untrue. More and more women are lawyers and in turn Judges and believe it or not, many of these judges in family court are tougher on women then they are on men. I have seen it with my own eyes time and time again.

#3 Men can never have custody of their kids. Untrue. The tender years doctrine is no longer the law or the way courts consider custody. The age of children is part of the factors in custody determinations but mothers and fathers are equal in the State of New Jersey. Obviously if one parent has had the children for a long period of time, the other parent cannot simply expect to fly into their lives and just obtain custody and if they do not, they cannot blame it on whether they are male or female, mother or father.

#4 Men Cannot Receive Alimony-Untrue. Women, you have what you want! You have jobs and salaries just like men and guess what? If you earn more, you will have to pay alimony! Whether you are a man or woman, the breadwinner will pay alimony. If the parties agree to waive alimony then of course it does not have to be paid but alimony can and is paid to men everyday. New world!

Anyway friends, until next time, thank you for reading and contact me if you seek a divorce attorney in New Jersey.

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DIVORCE IN JERSEY CITY, NEW JERSEY: A PARENT’S PERSPECTIVE AND WHY FILING SOONER IS BETTER

Children lean on us and follow our lead. As a parent and divorce-family lawyer in Jersey City-New Jersey, I am well aware of how it affects kids when a divorce is imminent and this is a universal truth whether in Jersey City, Newark, Hackensack, etc. When you have children, you only want the absolute best for them. Whether that is where you live, the schools they attend and of course: family unity, a home with two parents and the kids. However, many of us know that some marriages just do not last, do not work and are outright toxic for everyone involved, including the little ones. While we try to mask our despise or lack of care for your spouse, the children feel the tension and children in the end will model our relationships. In short, not only are you hurting yourself, you may be hurting the kids despite your efforts to shield them. So this is why it is best to file for divorce sooner rather than later when you know the marriage will not improve and you have tried to do all you can to fix it, however some things can never be fixed.  Some of the reasons it is wise to file for divorce now instead of years from now:

  1. The sooner you split up, the sooner you can begin to have a set schedule for the kids, for yourself and begin to heal.
  2. You will still receive financial support if you are the custodial parent and not have to explain every expenditure that you have. If you pay the support, you pay it and the other parent cannot ask for anything more than what is agreed to or court ordered, FINALLY a budget!
  3. When you have parenting time, it is your parenting time and it will not be interrupted or ruined with the toxic-negative aura of your ex.
  4. Your spouse’s letting the kids down on a consistent basis will be over because you will have your time and the non-custodial parent will have his or her time. (if the other parent does not use his or her visits, you can have those visits or parenting time suspended as it is key for the kids to have consistency).
  5. You will be able to focus on yourself which is key to being a good parent. When you are sad the  kids know, when you are happy, the kids know.
  6. The kids will eventually be happier by seeing you happy
  7. Any money accumulated during the marriage is usually split evenly and you can use that money for a new home, apartment, etc. Some of the money will be tax free.
  8. You will be able to spend the money you earn however you wish!

There are many reasons why to exit a relationship by way of divorce, these are just some with regard to your well-being and that direct correlation to the children’s success and happiness. I am a divorce lawyer in Jersey City that is a parent of two kids and I understand how divorces and break ups affect kids. In short, it is not an easy decision but when you know it is the right decision to make, contact my team at the Artusa Law Firm of Jersey City to discuss your case on 201-706-7910. All calls and consults are confidential.