As a family law attorney, I am in family court in Hudson County almost everyday arguing on behalf of my clients. I also practice in Essex, Bergen, Passaic, etc. Sometimes people call my office and are worried because they have an upcoming court date in family court or they just had their first family court experience and it did not go well and now seek a family lawyer. First, you have to take a step back and understand that it is ok to be anxious when going to court, that the Judge may come across as very short with you or that you think the family court judge does not like you. Most of the time, this is not true at all. It is very important to remember that Judges are very busy. They do not have time to let people turn the court’s into the Jerry Springer show, they must maintain order. So whether your judge is tough or not, it is important to work with an experienced family lawyer that can try to please the court, show the court respect, make arguments supported by law and that are concise. With that, a “tough judge” may begin showing you respect, may begin to remember more specific facts about your case and you may begin to feel that you are not just another number.
Key tips when appearing in family court:
- Don’t be a smart ass.
- Dress appropriately
- Be on time
- Do not make comments when the Judge is speaking
- Do not make faces when the other side is speaking
- Do not yell at anyone
- Show respect to everyone at the court
- Do not waste the court’s time
Yeah that seems like an obvious list but you wont believe what I see in family court on a daily basis. First impressions mean alot to everyone and when you come into court without following those 8 steps and other common sense “methods” you will have a long road ahead of you. If you have a family law case in Hudson County, contact us today on 201-706-7910.