Shared Parenting and Divorce, When Does it Make Sense?

In the “old days” when people got divorced or when people decided not to live together anymore, the non-custodial parent would often have a “traditional” parenting schedule which usually consisted of every other weekend parenting time. This type of parenting time greatly limits a parents ability to actually parent and becomes the “fun” parent, taking the child to games, to activities while the custodial parent would make all the day to day decisions. This form of parenting time has been found to hurt children in some cases but in other cases, the children have stability and are not dizzy from all the back and forth from one home to the next. The age of the child is very important in the determination of parenting time. A child custody case can be a separate action or it could be part of a contested divorce.

In a recent case, the child was less than 5 years old. The father was not involved in the day to day activities and upbringing of the child despite lying under oath that he was very active. The father presented pictures of matching tooth brushes in the two different homes, matching plates, cups, etc., to avoid confusion. Well, his attempt failed as a child is not going to be confused about which color toothbrush will be there or what kind of dish he or she will eat on but the confusion comes to more important things which the absent father could not understand. For instance, the rules set by one parent may be different than the rules of the other, non-custodial parent. The bed time and routine of a young child is critical and if the parents cannot agree, a shared parenting schedule will not work at such a young age. Only an active parent would know that or someone with common sense, something that is often lacking in courts especially when litigants lie.

If you seek more information about child custody cases from Jersey City Child Custody Attorney Santo Artusa, click here. You can also click here to learn more about our child support cases and for our home page which outlines all of our family law services, click here.

We have successfully represented people concerning family law and divorce matters in the Hudson County Family Court, Essex County Family Court and other courts in New Jersey for parents in both situations. If you have a parenting time issue or custody case, contact us today for an appointment in our Jersey City office on 201-706-7910.

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